Friday, July 19, 2013

Disappointed (or, Take a Good Look in the Mirror)

I sit, mouth agape, again, shaking my head as I read the endless slew of comments coming from my own community judging another mother, because the way she lives is "weird." What's worse is that I've seen it happen over and over again. It's hypocritical and more than a little disappointing.

Do we not often complain (rightfully so) of those in the mainstream community scoffing at us because of our "weird" practices and lifestyle choices? How many of us have been the subject of comments calling us crazy or picking on the little things about us that bother them, simply because they cannot pick at what we're doing, but know they don't like it, so they attack what they can, like our appearance or some silly little misspelling or grammar error? Yet, here I sit reading comments on a thread about a woman who chooses to live in a furniture-less home that say things like, "clean your house!" and "ew, that's so weird."

This happens on every "different" idea I post on the FB page. As soon as it's an idea that is new or uncomfortable to those who say they're living on the fringes of society and are, in fact, comfortable with that, out come the "this is stupid, this is nuts, this is just odd" comments. Why? Because it's a change? It's not the same as what you're used to? Guess what - that's why so many others make those comments to us. And we don't like them. And we expect them to open up their brains and hearts and expand their horizons a bit. We get frustrated that they don't or can't. And here we are doing the same.

Take a good look in the mirror, folks. And take a good look within. I expect better from people who know exactly what it's like to have such comments lodged at them.


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    1. Well, thank you. :) As expected, it went over like a fart in church, but I felt like it needed to be said.

  2. Eloquent. I couldn't comment. After the first "dirty house" comment I just closed the window (after I looked around and counted my own dust bunnies) It very much needed to be said. Thank you for this.

    1. Thanks much. What I have to say is so very often unpopular, it's nice to know I have some support. :)

  3. I think you're right. People don't like what's different. It's sad that instead of, "What an interesting idea, would never work for me." people think, "Ew, that's weird." And for the record, her house was way cleaner than mine usually is. I would love to purge a lot of furniture (actually, I have hardly any as is) and stuff that just takes up space. I loved her home and was ready to move in! I wish I could apply the same concept to my living room that has tile floors, in my experience, rugs haven't helped much with anybody's desire to sit on a tile floor.

  4. Where's the original post please?
    Living in loads of clutter I'd love to see an alternative!

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